Sunday, April 27, 2008

it's been one year...


it's been one year since maryfran died. she died at about 1:30AM april 28.

here's a picture of mom in hawaii in the 50's. she's with a flight attendant friend. i'd never seen this picture before. bill found it in her things and gave it to me for christmas last year.

life has moved on for both bill and me. her house on nottoway court has been sold. her furniture and possessions sold or given to family.

many of you gave to the charities mentioned in this blog, particularly the american lung association. bill and i thank you for that.

there's not a day that i don't think of her. more and more, i see her in me. in the way i act. in the way i speak. in my mannerisms and expressions. seeing this happen makes me know that with death, comes life.

















to remember mom, here are the words from a poem i wrote about her. my good friend jonathan read this at her funeral:

I AM ME, BECAUSE OF YOU

I am me, because of you.
You were proud of me. I was so proud of you.
First, you gave me life. Then, you gave me soul.
Then, you gave me more. I then, gave back to you.

A love of nature. A love to nurture.
Of gardening. And plants. Like Pacassandra. And Rhododendron.
Of animals. Like dogs. And cats. Birds. And fish.

To Laugh.
To laugh a lot.
To poke fun.
To pull a prank.

To laugh at yourself.
To laugh at myself.
To Laugh again.

To make a friend.
The gift of gab.
To light up a room.
To be loved.

A taste for Glamour.
An appetite for style.
The joy of experience.
The confidence to know how.

The gift of creativity.
To make things balance.
To pick the right color.
The pursuit of perfection.

I am me, because of you.
You are gone, eternally free.
But because of so many things,
You will now and forever, be alive in me.

I will never forget you.
I will always thank you.
I will always love you.
Your son, Tom.

Saturday, May 5, 2007

My Memories of Mary Fran Jarrold (by Nancy Jarrold -- step-daughter)

One of the most wonderful memories I have of Mary Fran is her immaculately kept house. Her sense of beauty and order made me feel that all things were well in the world and all things were possible. I always felt inspired after visiting her to make my home as immaculate as hers. She made it seem like it was effortless and easy to have everything so clean and well-organized and made her home easy to be in.

Also her many interesting stories of working with the stewardess union inspired me to become a staunch union supporter, and I have never changed in that regard. Due to Mary Fran's influence and inspiration my first job out of college was a union representative for an office workers union in Boston. I enjoyed and never tired of her stories about her work with American Airlines, the famous, rich, and ordinary people she met, and her dedication to her work for justice, the very strong friendships she made and kept for many years with her coworkers, and the Kiwi organization. I was very proud of Mary Fran's achievements in American Airlines and whenever the time was appropriate I would proudly tell people that my step-mother was a stewardess for American Airlines and active in the union for many years.

mom's funeral

we celebrated mom's life at saint sebastian church yesterday, may 4, 2007 at 11AM.

the program from the service is here:




Wednesday, May 2, 2007

more of mom's pics

some more of my favorite pics of maryfran are below.

i'm trying to set up a link to a photo gallery, but that's sort of advanced for me.

t.




Mom's Autobiography: The Flight of Fifty Years

This is one of two brief essays Mary Fran wrote, apparently for a 50 Year class reunion at her High School -- Old Trail. The other essay is called ``Mom's Autobiography: My Life in a Nutshell." You can find the other briefer essay below here.

THE FLIGHT OF FIFTY YEARS Mary Frances Dannemiller Jarrold


When I think that fifty years has passed since graduating from Old Trail School, I am overwhelmed. Time has gone so quickly but filled with many happy memories. Life has been good to me. I am most appreciative of the varied experiences, opportunities, and many good times. I feel blessed and fortunate that fifty years has treated me generously and graciously.

From Old Trail School I went on to graduate from college - Akron University. After college I became a stewardess for American Airlines in August of 1952. I flew for twelve years and left the job after I fell in love with Jerome Thomas Jarrold and married in October of 1964. Those were the days when stewardesses had to quit when they married or turned 32 years of age. How times have changed! My days of flying where happy days. I traveled throughout the United States logging over one million miles as a stewardess. I enjoyed trips to Europe, the Middle East, Canada, Mexico and may other parts of the world. I started out flying the Convair 240 (2 engine airplane) and the DC6 (four engine airplane). I flew the inaugural flight on the DC7 in 1954 leaving John F. Kennedy Airport (in those days Idlewild Field) non-stop to Los Angeles. What exciting times - seeing the Atlantic Ocean on takeoff and nine hour later bathing your tired and sore feet in the Pacific Ocean. I can say I literally walked from New York to Los Angeles. Flying was fun in those days. You met many interesting people from celebrities to the plain and ordinary folks. In 1958 the 707 Boeing Jet joined American's fleet. What an airplane - coast to coast in six hours. An absolute wonder! However the advent of the jet change the life of a stewardess. You flew more trips, carried more passengers with many more elaborate services. In 1958 I became active in the Airline Steward and Stewardesses Association. I was an member of the American Airlines contract negotiating team negotiating a contract in 1960 and 1962. I was a permanent member of the American Airlines Stewardess System Board of Adjustment hearing stewardess grievance cases. What a broadening experience this was! In 1962 American Airlines Stewardesses testified in the United States Congress regarding the rule that stewardesses had to leave the job under contractual obligations at the age of 32 or when they married. I look back and realize that this was the advent of the women's lib movement. I feel proud to have been involved. It was scary - you were face to face with a lot of powerful men in times when women were to be seen and not heard. Influenced by our testimony Congress added to the pending Civil Rights Bill that discrimination because of age or marital status was unconstitutional, The passage of the Civil Rights Bill in 1966 ended these injustices.

After I married my husband and I moved to Connecticut. We built a house in 1968 in Easton, CT - a small rural community boarding Westport, Fairfield and Weston. We had there beautiful and natural acres. I became an avid gardener and spent many pleasurable hours in my garden Our son, William Lawrence was born in 1966 and my son, Thomas Edward was born in 1969. Our two boys were the source of our joy - always loving, good students, ambitious and responsible. They graduated high school from Fairfield Preparatory School in Fairfield, CT - a Jesuit school. Bill went on to MIT in Boston graduating in 1986 and Tom graduated from McGill University in Montreal, Canada in 1989. Presently Bill is working at CYC Corporation in Austin, Texas doing research in Artificial Intelligence and plugging away working on a doctorate degree. Tom is in the fast pace environment of advertising He just transferred from New York City to Los Angeles.

Besides raising my two boys, I was very active in my community in Easton. For two years I was president of the Parent/Teachers Association. I was involved in my Church, Note Dame of Easton and on the Parish Council. I held an office in the Easton Garden Club and ran several fund raising events. I became involved in a non-partisan group - Citizens for Easton - a watch dog group to protect an preserve the rural character of our wonderful town. Citizens for Easton was instrumental in adding acres of open space to our community; dedicated to preserving farm lands; initiating ordinances to protect Easton's natural beauty - particularly the stone walls from colonial days - so characteristic of Connecticut. I love Easton and it will always be a source joy, happiness and fond memories.

My husband was an ardent sailor We spent our summers sailing the Long Island Sound and the waters of Cape Cod. Those were happy and exciting days. Jerry made a sailor out of me and of course our two sons inherited his love of sailing. Jerry was a dedicated swimmer. He spent his youth swimming and took many trophies and awards during his high school days and college years. In 1980 he joined the Masters Swimmers Group, competing in swimming events throughout the United States He swam every day and was in top physical condition. In 1994 he was diagnosted with an incurable leucemia and passed away in six short months. This was a divesting blow to me and my boys. I miss him and feel a void in my life; however I have managed to keep busy and involved inmany activities.

In 1986 when my boys started college I returned to work, working for Country Living Real Estate in Westport, CT. I enjoy the real estate field and have continued working a couple days a week.

I sold my home in 1996 and moved on a temporary basis to a wonderful cottage at my cousin's home in Scarsdale, New York.

My cousin an I were close friends in childhood days so we have many happy times visiting together recalling memories of our childhood days. Time has come to make a move to a permanent residence. After much consideration I decided to move back to Akron where I have family and friends. I am about to close on a condominium at Georgetown. I am excited about my move back to my roots and reliving my second childhood.

Life has been busy, challenging and enjoyable. I feel truly blessed. I must add that my four years at Old Trail gave me a foundation and appreciation of learning. I am grateful of those high school years. I particularly remember Miss. Ruth Courtney who taught me three years of Latin. Miss. Courtney was a mentor to me, always supportive and interested in me. Miss. Ann Burroughs gave me a love of biology which became my major in college. All the teachers took special interest an I can say I got a good education at Old Trail.

I look forward to the Class Reunion and remembering those days that seem like yesterday. Fifty years have passed so swiftly. What happy days they were!

Sincerely,

Mary Frances Dannemiller Jarrold

Mom's Autobiography: My Life in A Nutshell

This is one of two brief essays Mary Fran wrote, apparently for a 50 Year class reunion at her High School -- Old Trail. The other essay is called ``Mom's Autobiography: The Flight of Fifty Years."

MY LIFE IN A NUTSHELL


Mary Frances Dannemiller Jarrold

Graduated Old Trail School - 1948

Graduated College, Akron University - 1952

Became an American Airlines Stewardess in August of 1952, logging over one million miles in my twelve years as a stewardess. I traveled throughout the world during these twelve wonderful years.

Fell in love and married Jerome Thomas Jarrold in 1964. Our first son, William Lawrence was born in 1966 and our second son, Thomas Edward was born in 1969.

We built a home in Easton, Connecticut in 1969. My married years I spent happily as a typical housewife enjoying my home and becoming an ardent gardener. I was active in my community and served on various town boards.

While my children were in college, I returned to work in the Real Estate field in Westport, CT which I have continued until today.

In 1994 my husband passed away after a brief illness This was devastating to me and my boys. However I have remained active and involved to cope with my loss.

Sold my home in Easton in 1996 and moved to Scarsdale, New York.

Just recently I purchased a condominium in Akron. I look forward to returning to my roots and ready to enjoy my "second childhood".

These past fifty year have been good to me. I am grateful for the many opportunities and experiences life has given to me. It seems like yesterday that I graduated from Old Trail.

Time flies!

Tuesday, May 1, 2007

mom and evelyn


tom dannemiller, jr sent in this photo of his mom, evelyn, with maryfran. evy and maryfran were great friends - she was one of the main reasons my mom chose to move back to akron. mom always called evy a saint. they spent a lot of time together until evelyn's death in 2004, and i know my mom missed her terribly after her death.

just yesterday, i learned that my mom picked out evelyn's wedding ring for her brother tom in new york city. that made me smile.

tom.